"Here is what you learn very early, as a young woman prone to fatness, even before puberty: My body is bad. My body is disgusting. My body is something for me to fight against. My body will not cooperate with my desire to be thin. My body is a disappointment to the people around me. I hate how all these studies and articles just assume as true that it is the natural order of things that fat girls will feel bad about themselves, as if this is, in fact, the proper way to view yourself when you are fat. No, this is not natural. This does not come from looking in the mirror. Girls are inculcated with messages that fatness is bad and that their bodies are their enemies. Loving your body is not option. That fatness-shame, combined with the puberty-shame of our puritanical, anti-woman, anti-sex culture, means that at the onset of puberty fat girls undergo deep, deep dissociation with their bodies. This happens to all kinds of girls, but especially fat girls."
Silvana @Tiger Beatdown › On Heavy Girls and Sexy Time
(it’s not natural to feel badly about yourself. it’s not natural to think you’re ugly and disgusting and unwanted. it’s not. you can learn to love yourself and see yourself as beautiful and that is JUST as natural—if not more so—than all of this self hate. i know it’s hard. i know everyone’s telling you to resent your body. but you can choose to stop. submit something. tell us what you love about yourself.)
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